This past week I took some time to reflect on many things concerning this blog with a lot of prayer. I appreciate all of your emails of encouragement, concern and support. Taking a much needed break this past week had several purposes. The first one was that I believe and hope that the Southwest Region Conference of SDA knows they have the full support of this blog. Leadership is a tough responsibility and you must expect others to be free to analyze and evaluate the effectiveness of it. I believe and God has told me that this is not a sin. Secondly, I needed some time to reflect on several issues now that we have moved on with our new leadership. My plan was to take a two week break. When I woke up this morning something impressed me (God) to check my email. When I opened it I realized I had a new comment post on a topic posted two months ago. I felt it to be strange the posting “What Happened to the Good Ole Days” had appeared with recent activity. I then saw this comment from an anonymous contributor and it was like a fire ignited inside of me….
“To desire the good old days is to sit in a state of nostalgia and nothingness. We have today, the good old days are old and gone forever. What are we going to do today. Ministers and their wives are always going to be talked about. I am a pastor’s wife. We have been abused and talked about enough that for me I am just going to do what pleases me. Most of the members don’t care about us. They feel that they can just call the conference office and request a new pastor, not caring how it may affect the pastor and his family. Cant speak for everyone, but as for me, I am not taking any more abuse.” Anonymous
I then began to recall a statement that was made and posted in Memorable Comments stating that our shepherdess are not forgotten. How can this be? It is my understanding that the Shepherdess Leader was very offended by statements and comments made on this blog, however shouldn’t the focus be how can we support these women and other workers who feel abused? It is the Frank, Dino, and Jerry’s of this world that create this type of atmosphere for other workers?
What is the plan to address that? Many workers feel like they are not supported by the administrators in this conference. Members can call and place complaints without any substantiated claim and instead of having a true chain of command to hear grievances they start trying to figure out how they can position themselves to be in “the know.” What stupidity, don’t they know that when you don’t support the leader of a church it breeds divisiveness and hate mongering? Did they not teach these leadership skills at Andrews University? Just like “Anonymous” I have seen this all too well…it’s called “playing two ends against the middle.” I would like to hear a committment from our conference leaders that these tactics will stop so we can begin operating with decency and order as God commands. One way of doing this is for our new leader to reach out to its pastors and facilitate a risk-free round table discussion about these types of issues. These are the men who supported you, throw them a life line. They need to talk and the constituents need the healing to begin between administration and the field so we can enhance God’s work and hurry the soon coming of Christ.
To Anonymous: I hope you will continue to speak out and visit us regularly. I have already lifted you up in prayer and I know and believe that all contributors and readers of this blog will do the same.
I hope this administration and our new president will hear the many voices of its workers and constituents crying out and respond.
~The Forgotten Shepherdess